The Benefits of Living a Life with Intention

I think it’s reasonable to say that everyone desires to be happy and successful. Happiness and success look like different things to different people, and everyone will have a different opinion on how to get there. Some may assume that accomplishments just fall into the laps of the successful; but, those who achieve know goal setting is a fundamental component to their success because they had a concrete plan to meet their objective. While goal setting is an immensely valuable skill, it is future-focused, leaving little time to live in the moment.

Intentions, on the other hand, are desires and affirmations meant to keep you in the present, empowering you to accomplish great things throughout the day. Setting a daily intention will enable you to align your beliefs and values to the possibilities of now, leading to a happier, authentic life.

The great thing about intentions is there are no rules around creating them, but here are the benefits and practices that may work well for you.

Intentions are Limitless
The beauty of intentions is you can change them every day. Perhaps today you intend to focus on your family and tomorrow you will direct your energy into creating a fantastic presentation.

Intentions are Bigger than Goals
Goals are what you want to achieve. Intentions are who you want to be while achieving your goals.

Intentions Can Increase Your Effectiveness
Setting intentions cultivates a positive mindset, which can lead to increased energy levels and productivity. Give into positive thoughts and feel the buzz of energy!

Intentions Take Your Mind Off of Problems
If you are having a bad day, setting an intention can refocus your energies into something positive. Purposefully focusing on only positive thoughts puts the power of change directly into your hands.

Intentions Build Awareness
We’re all busy, but there are 24 hours in a day; so, take ten minutes to sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or watch the sunset. Be present in each moment and take the time to enjoy the simple pleasures life throws at you.

Intentions Can Include Global Contributions
The state of the world is a little crazy, and we all want to do our part to make the world a happier place. Set an intention to make a difference, no matter how small, because the tiniest change can lead to the biggest difference. In fact, just saying it out loud could result in wondrous things!

Intentions can have a powerful impact on your life. How has setting them helped you?

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Seeking a Well-Lived Life: Happiness is Only Half of It

A long time ago, people were happy with the right to vote, the right to worship freely, a little food in their bellies, and roof over their heads. As the years have progressed and society has become more consumer-driven, it takes a lot more to make people “happy.” New cars, the latest smart phones and electronics, fashionable clothing, and other things are what people want – convinced the latest trinket will finally bring them what they’ve been searching for.

If you ask a handful of successful people whether the stuff and money they have makes them happy, most will probably answer no. Rather it’s the moments in life that make it so rewarding: working hard on a project and meeting your goals, watching your children grow up, helping someone when they need it most. These are the instances that we will look back on and smile about.

So, should happiness be the only goal that motivates us?

Before we can answer that question, we must first define happiness.

Happiness is when all of your needs and desires are being met with little effort. It may surprise some of you, but happiness is often associated with selfish behavior – a taking mindset, rather than a giving one – a fleeting moment of hedonism.

Traditional wisdom would advise against seeking a life that is solely pleasurable, because you will end up stressed, aggravated, in a constant state of pursuit, and… unhappy. Today’s wisdom, however, blatantly advocates for the pursuit of happiness. Like marathons, it’s become a trendy fixation people need to pursue. There are Facebook challenges and a plethora of books for sale on Amazon, like The Happiness Project, all designed to help you be “happy.”

But are these books providing an outline to be happy or an outline for a meaningful life? Happiness without meaning is a shallow, egocentric way to live. Unlike happiness, a meaningful life is a giving one and stems from contributing to society and serving others.

And back to my original question: should happiness be our sole motivation?

Meeting your own needs will only get you so far. Real “happiness” – those moments that you replay in your head – come from a balance of fulfilling your own needs, but recognizing when they’ve been met so you can help others. It’s a give and take, rather than one or the other.

To cultivate happiness and meaning in your life, here are a few tips:

Find Your Passion

Joy creeps into your life when you do something you love. Finding a way to share your passions with the world will give your life meaning, while bringing happiness to yourself.

Be Compassionate

Compassion happens when we open ourselves to the anguish of others. It is a way of looking beyond our own needs, to those of others. When in doubt remember what the Dalai Lama said:

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.”

Focus on Your Relationships

Reconnect with your friends from college, call your mom, brother or aunt to have a chat, hug your spouse and/or your children. When the people in your life feel loved and cared about, they’ll begin to share that with other people, and eventually it will come full circle back to you.

Do you live a meaningful life? What do you do to ensure your life is both meaningful and happy?

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Three Myths About Networking During The Summer

Do you let your business die in the summer because everyone is on vacation? Fewer networking events throughout the summer should not stop you from building relationships because everyone is away. While it’s true summer is more relaxed, so too can your networking, meaning more casual, not less productive. Guest blogger Terri O’Donnell (PCC,CPCC) talks about three myths about summer networking. 

Myth 1: “Everyone” is away on vacation.

I promise you if you’re in sales and have a quota; those excuses won’t hold water with your manager/boss. If you’re a small business owner, your business will die on the vine if you stop growing your business. Instead, summertime is a great time to develop some new connections and deepen current ones because it can be more relaxed. My experience is if you’re a work-from-home business, you may fall into the trap of a self-imposed slump if you choose not to make other arrangements with your kids during the summer.

Instead, use the summer months to connect with your LinkedIn contacts. Are you connected to over 1,000 people in LinkedIn like I am? Do you know every one of them? Certainly not. When is the last time you looked through your connections and reached out to them personally with the expectation to learn more about them? Be strategic and sort through those individuals in your contact sphere first and reach out for a coffee, breakfast, lunch or a Zoom or Google Hangout meeting. Beware; not everyone is a fan of using technology this way.

Myth 2:  Everyone in my neighborhood is either at the pool, baseball game, swim meet or BBQ.

Summer means chillaxing with family and friends. While this is true, do you completely stop thinking about your work?  Instead, think local and take the time to get to know those in your community. In other words, go to these events and be intentional about meeting new people or discussing your passion with other moms and dads at those events. You’ll be making new connections that may not typically be on your radar during other months. Plus, you may be surprised who knows whom while learning more about what they do. Again, because it’s more casual the guard of “talking about business” is more relaxed during the summer.

Myth 3: Networking organizations and opportunities are not available during the summer.

Yes, some networking opportunities are not available. That is true. When a networking opportunity does avail itself, say YES. Perhaps it’s an event that you can’t make throughout the year because you’re typically too busy. It’s the perfect opportunity to meet some new people with whom you may share your passion.

Remember, networking can and does happen anywhere at any time. Be intentional and make the most of the summer and have some fun while doing so.

–Terri has helped business professionals and small business owners transition through life changes and challenges with ease. Her complimentary, confidential, exploratory coaching call is a great start plus you’ll walk away with a great assessment tool.

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Did You Choose Your Yellow Brick Road?

Follow the yellow brick road. Follow the yellow brick road. Follow, follow, follow, follow…

Wouldn’t it be great if we had a path laid out for us and a catchy little ditty to remember where we need to go?

Yes, it would! Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. Every day we are faced with choices; some huge, like whether to accept responsibility for a big project at work, which could have an incredible impact on our career; others kind of mundane like choosing between a turkey sandwich and a salad for lunch or taking an alternate route home from the gym.

When it comes to the big questions, how do you know which route to take? For some people, these decisions come easy; while, for others they can be gut-wrenching torture. Unfortunately, for the latter, there is no road map; but that doesn’t mean you can’t find your way.

When you’ve decided you want to get the most out of life, you’re embarking on a journey of personal growth.This transformational process will allow you to focus your attention inward, evaluate your desires, and improve your physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, social, and/or financial health.

Since personal growth is, well, personal, there is no exact path to achieve it. It’s different for each person, depending on his or her values, wants, hopes, desires, etc. It’s really up to you how your journey unfolds.

I do, however, have some pointers to get you started in the right direction:

Start by evaluating your current state. Assess your strengths, weaknesses, and habits (both good and bad). Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Do I like where I am in life?

  • Am I getting the results I want?

  • Do I wish my life was better?

  • Where am I struggling?

  • Where do I see the greatest need for improvement?

Examine your desires. Ask yourself:

  • What do I want out of life?
  • What makes me happy?

  • What would I love to spend my time doing?

  • What story have I been telling to myself and to others?

Make a game plan to achieve your goals. Determine what you need to learn and do in order to get closer to your desired self.

Create a plausible timeline. This is an ABSOLUTE MUST if you want to achieve your goal.

  • Make a list of activities and tasks you intend to complete within a certain timeframe.

  • Use these as milestones on the way to your goal.

Personal growth can be an arduous journey. Sometimes the path will be easy and other times you will stumble over rocks on the yellow brick road. But, if you want to become the best you you can be, then you must keep going. You are in charge of your life and only you can choose where you’ll end up. Make a decision, here and now, that you won’t succumb to the road blocks.

Have you had a personal growth experience?

What advice would you give to someone working to better themselves?

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How To Take Back “Reply All”

You’re sitting at your desk responding to one of the hundred emails your client sent you… that morning. Before you respond to his multitude of questions, you want to run your response by your colleagues. You forward it with a quick intro: “check this b4 i send 2 kl&co!” Only instead of forwarding the email to your co-workers, you hit reply all and it ended up in the client’s inbox too!

We spend a majority of our day on our computers; and replying to emails can take up a big portion of the day. Eventually, just because of sheer volume, you’ll probably make a mistake at some point in your life– whether it’s sending an email to an unintended recipient to a simple grammar blunder.

Here are a few tips that will help you diffuse the situation if you ever mistakenly hit “reply all:”

Undo Send

If this isn’t reason enough to use Gmail, I don’t know what is. Notice a spelling error in your email after you sent it? Accidentally hit “reply all?” This awesome Gmail feature, allows you to unsend an email. If only life were so easy!

Explain Your Critiques

If your critique of a colleague accidentally winds up in their inbox, don’t hide from your statement. Explain your feelings and back it up with sound examples.


Own your mistake – and do it in person, especially if you offended a co-worker. Be thoughtful in your apology and avoid insincere language. Take full ownership of your mistake, especially in the workplace, as your reputation and personal brand are on the line.

Find the Good

“Reply all” emails can often cause a lot of problems; but on occasion they can be a good thing. Perhaps tensions are running high between two co-worker’s intra-team emails; a good manager would recognize this is a great opportunity to bring the cohort together to discuss the project and work on team building exercises.

Under no circumstances should you tell everyone to ignore your email, pretend it was a joke, hide until it’s “over” or start insincerely begging for forgiveness.

Unintentionally hitting “reply all” is a nightmare we’ve all had and most have experienced. What did you do when you found yourself in that situation?

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Letting Go

It is a universal truth that everyone wants be happy, while escaping sadness, pain, worry, anger, and other burdens.

Buddha believed that human struggles derived from our attachment – equating happiness to people, things, and outcomes.

We’ve all told ourselves at one time or another: “I’ll be happy when I get that promotion” or “I’ll be happy when I’m in a relationship” or “I’ll be happy when I lose 15 pounds.”

What if that never happens? Will you never be happy again? Losing out on a promotion is disheartening and breakups are devastating; but you can’t place your whole life’s happiness on one thing.

In order to escape those burdens, you need to let them go. I know, I know… this is easier said than done. Here are few tips that may allow you to let go of your attachments.

Live in the Moment

Enjoy your life as it is now for it will never be this way again. This doesn’t mean you can’t plan for your future; just remember to be at peace where you are right this second and stop worrying about all bad/inadequate/wrong things in your life.

Liberate Yourself from the Need to Know

There are no certainties or guarantees in life. You may only be granted today; so smile, take advantage of the day, and enjoy the feeling of a day enjoyed for what it is.

Trust the Process

Everyone “lets go” at a different pace. Some days you will cleave to your attachment, while other days it’s easier to do without it. This is a natural process – rush it, and your journey may become more difficult than was necessary. Trust that when you’re ready to free yourself from the anchor you’re tied to, you will.

Make Room for New Possibilities

If your refrigerator is full, you can’t keep more food in it. You have to clean out last week’s leftovers, empty jars, and the multitude of other items that have taken up residence for far too long. The same rule applies to people. If you’re emotionally stocked up you can’t make room for new ideas, people, experiences, what have you. So, do yourself a favor and clean out your metaphorical fridge.

Don’t Wait to Do What You Love

Money does not lead to a meaningful life. Cultivate your spirit by taking part in activities that are meaningful to you. Volunteer, read, feed your soul.

This won’t always be easy. Some days will be hard, others even harder. You may hold on to your struggles, believing they’ll lead to happiness. It’s okay – it happens. Just reassure yourself that only you have the ability to choose how to experience each moment.

How do you want to live them?

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Monday morning rolls in like a freight train. The alarm sounds at 5 a.m. and you begrudgingly remember the promise you made the day before – 5:45 spin class. It’s a promise you make to yourself every Sunday… and it’s a promise you break every Monday morning.

Why do you keep choosing to snooze?

Every day we are faced with similar choices. Get up and go for a walk or sleep for an extra 30 minutes; eat a healthy salad or a steak sandwich oozing with cheese; work on an important presentation or procrastinate on Facebook for a few more minutes. These decisions may seem trivial and insignificant, but if you’re consistently hitting the snooze button, you probably need to re-evaluate your mindset.

Self-determination is a critical factor in success. And, unlike curly hair or blue eyes, self-determination is not a gene you inherit; rather it’s a state of mind that can be acquired and cultivated.

To cultivate self-determination, utilize some of the strategies below:


Did you know that meditation could enhance your willpower? According to health psychologist, Kelly McGonigal, practicing meditation for about 10 minutes a day builds gray matter in areas of the brain that control emotions and manage decision-making.

There are many different meditation techniques. Check out several of McGonigal’s guided meditations and see which one works best for you.

Set SMART Goals

Self-determined people have a strong desire to achieve and in order to get what they want or where they want to be, they set goals. And not just any goals, SMART goals.

It’s easy to say I want to lose some weight, but it’s unlikely that you’ll succeed unless you define specific objectives and determine an end date. So the next time you’re ready to sit down and write your goals, make sure they are:


Anticipate Road Blocks

Nothing worth having comes easy. Self-determined individuals work hard for the things they achieve, but they also recognize the path to success isn’t paved in gold. There are mountains to climb and rivers to cross.

When you set your goals, try to predict what obstacles you will encounter on the way. Are you working on one facet of a team project at work? How could their feedback expedite or delay the project? If you can anticipate the difficulties you may encounter, you can prepare and set up a contingency plan.

Eat the Frog First

Mark Twain said, “Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.”

First thing in the morning or as soon as you get to work, tackle the project that you really don’t want to do. You know the project I’m talking about. In fact, you may have been avoiding it for a few days now, but that frog won’t go away. Come on, do it… Think about that amazing feeling you’ll get when you finally cross it off your to-do list!

Use Self-Affirmations

Achieving your goals is never easy. Sometimes you will feel a little less determined and some days, you may feel as though you are losing your will power. Like meditation, self-affirmations have been shown to increase willpower. Pick a favorite verse or phrase or memory and say it out loud when you’re feeling down on yourself. Here’s a list of great affirmations if you need some help!

Do you consider yourself to be a self-determined individual?
What tools and strategies do you use to get where you want to be?

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Journaling Bully

They’re conversations we have every day. Our inner critic arrives and her mood determines the emotional course of our day. You’re either a rock star or an idiot.

to-march-blog-picAt times, your inner critic sounds like your mother – keeping you in line and questioning decisions that you may come to regret. Sometimes she arrives as your greatest champion. Then on occasion, she is a bully, leaving you in ruins.

When your inner critic is especially harsh, you may need the occasional reminder that you’re actually an intelligent, capable individual. Journaling is a very cathartic process that can help you defeat the bully. A few journal-writing prompts are below.

  1. When you are feeling especially low, write what’s happening and how it makes you feel (e.g.: I’m sad and bored at my job). Identify any stories you invented to make the situation worse (e.g.: I’ll be stuck at this horrible company forever). Recognize a more useful way to view the situation and try to attach it to a goal (e.g.: I may be unhappy right now; but I can update my resume and start searching for something new).
  2. Keep a praise journal and make note of all the awesome stuff you do.
  3. Maintain a list of your best qualities.
  4. Write a list of qualities your friends, family or co-workers like about you.
  5. Compile a list of positive quotes.
  6. Draw. Discover the joy of doodling.
  7. Write down three simple things that make you happy, like dogs, a hot cup of coffee, and warm February days.
  8. Develop a list of skills that you’d like to improve and track your progress.

Look back through this journal when your inner critic is putting you down. It will serve as proof that you’re a dynamic, compelling person and can help you refocus your energy.

What other methods have you used to tame your inner bully?

What Matters Most?

Are you calling the shots in YOUR life or are responsibilities, circumstances and other people running your life?

Or, do you wake up, jump out of bed, ready to start your day, every day with enthusiasm?

Perhaps you value your work because it gives you structure and pays the bills, but sometime during the day, you lose your motivation. Next thing you know, you’re surfing the net, texting friends and family only to look up and discover the work day is over?

What Matters Most often gets forgotten and we just continue to plow through work and life. Sometimes we’re even aware something is amiss. But, what can you do about it? And, life just goes on. Rinse and repeat. Rinse and repeat. Not a very fulfilling life if that is how you might feel, right? Yet, what can you do about it?

If any of this describes you or someone you know, won’t you join me for What Matters Most Complimentary Webinar: Building a Fulfilling Life on the Foundation of Your Values. This training is enlightening and educational and you will discover:

  1. How to find and align with your true values in any situation,
  2. How to minimize drama and maximize success in your life,
  3. How knowing your values can open doors to your happiness,
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Stop Treading Water and Build Your Growth Mindset

For a moment, let’s imagine a situation:


You’ve worked at the same company, in the same role, for almost ten years. You stayed because it was familiar, comfortable, and, maybe at times, easy. But despite this, you are not content. Rather, you feel immobilized. You’ve been treading water for months or years, but you don’t remember how to swim, so you can’t move forward.

We’ve all been in a similar situation at one point or another. And while “treading water” may feel like a negative situation in which to find yourself, think of it more as an “ah-ha moment.” It’s a sign that something in your life is not going right and recognizing this feeling is the first step in leaving it behind.

What’s the second step? Change your mindset. Of course, that’s easier said than done; but a positive, growth mindset is the essential factor that will help you get moving again.

Carol Dweck, Ph.D., one of the leading researchers on motivation, states people have two types of mindsets – fixed and growth. Fixed mindset people believe their basic qualities, like intelligence or athletic ability, are innate talents. They don’t work on building and improving them, because they believe talent comes without effort.

Growth mindset people, on the other hand, foster a love of learning. They believe that all their abilities can be further developed and improved upon. People with this mindset tend to be motivated, productive, and can cultivate healthy personal and business relationships.

Here are some tools to cultivate your growth mindset, which will also help you to swim again:

  • View challenges as opportunities. Fixed mindset people will often skip a challenge for fear of failing. Growth mindset people see challenges as opportunities for personal growth and improvement.
  • Stop viewing mistakes as failures. Albert Einstein said, “A person who never made a mistake, never tried anything new.” We all can’t be professional athletes or mathematicians, but it doesn’t mean we don’t have special gifts of our own. When you make a mistake, you didn’t fail; you learned. Don’t be afraid to try something new. You may fall flat on your face and end up with a great story or you just might shine. Either way, it sounds like a win.
  • Value growth, not speed. Everyone learns at his or her own speed. Just because it took Johnny an hour to learn a new computer skill, doesn’t mean it will take you the same amount of time. Anything worth doing, takes time.
  • Stop seeking others’ approval. Constantly needing approval and recognition takes time away from your own learning and self-growth.
  • Use the word “yet.” Sometimes you may struggle with a task or goal. That’s okay! Not everything comes easy to everyone. Don’t get too discouraged. Remind yourself that I haven’t mastered that skill… yet!

Treading water is an experience we’ve all been through at least once, if not more. Be positive and know this is just temporary. And if nothing else works, remember the wise words of a scatterbrained fish: “Just keep swimming.”

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you were treading water? What steps did you take to start swimming again?

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Conversational Blind Spots

conversation-1262311_960_720For some, conversation is an art, for others, a nightmare. But with a little science, anyone can become a conversational master.

Social scientists use Conversational Intelligence® (C-IQ) to measure the quality and level of trust fostered during a conversation. An individual with high CI has transformational conversations that utilize discovery questions to engage their partner’s prefrontal cortex, the portion of the brain that controls trust. Someone with low CI activates the part that enables suspicion and anxiety.

One of the keys to developing a high C-IQ is to recognize your conversational blind spots. Breakdowns in conversations happen when people talk past each other. If you want to build trust, you must engage and learn to talk and listen with someone.

Some of the most common conversational blind spots are:

  • The assumption that all people “see what we see, feel what we feel, and think what we think.”1
  • Fear, trust, and skepticism greatly influence our reality.
  • Fear prohibits us from standing in someone else’s shoes.
  • The assumption that we remember what someone else said, when in reality we remember what we think about what they said.
  • Meaning does not dwell in the speaker, but rather the listener.

Our experiences shape our reality; and blind spots occur because people’s experiences are different. There are ways to bridge the gap and minimize blind spots:

  • Don’t monopolize the conversation. Allowing others room to contribute can offer new insights and stimulate new ideas.
  • Ask open-ended discovery questions, for example: How did that decision impact you? What are your goals and how can I help you achieve them?
  • Listen without judgment. Be empathetic and open to hearing other viewpoints.

What conversational blind spots have you experienced? Did you use a specific technique to master it? I’d welcome your insights.

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